Take the Risk

Tackle fear, step out, and live your BEST life.

I'm afraid of people.

I have always cared about what others have thought about me. I always felt bound to the approval of wanting others to like me. I remained silent because I feared raising my voice, and I would overthink everything I'd say. Making it a point to always please others in order to avoid conflict was the reality of my life. I avoided any action that would result in me standing out and showing my true colors. Starting this blog is the perfect example. When the ideas began to flow and the excitement was building, fear suddenly crept in. Thoughts like "you don't have anything new to share" "you don't specialize in anything, so how are you going to inspire" and "you are too young" filled my mind. In the moment that these feelings of inadequacy and all the insecurities flooded my heart, the voice of perfect love whispered and exposed every false lie.

"If you live by the approval of people, you will die by their rejection."

- Rick Warren

The Root of the Problem

I was insecure. I felt the need to be everything everyone wanted me to be because I was not satisfied with who God made me to be. I didn't believe I had the approval of my Heavenly Father. I was still living from the insecurity that settled in my heart when I was the sixth grade girl who would always get picked dead LAST for kickball during P.E. I did not want to ever feel that feeling of not being wanted, so instead I succumbed to what others wanted in order to please them, in order to be everyone's friend. (Dezzy)

I didn't believe in myself. I was the middle school girl who would always get made fun of for being goofy and loud, so one day I decided to silence my voice. I lived in this silence throughout my high school years for the fear of what people would think of me. I hid the real me and never let it show for the fear of being rejected or disliked. (Yazzy)

The Solution

It wasn't until I truly believed who Jesus said I was and more than that, whose I was, until I began to break free from this fear. I realized I didn't have to let the fact of whether or not people were going to like me for me dictate my life. Jesus likes me. He likes all my quirks, and more than that, he loves the personality and the voice that He can only find in me. Now don't get me wrong, I'm 23 years old, and I still have to remind myself of this truth on a daily basis. It is not something that just goes away, but rather, it's a struggle that needs to be walked out everyday according to the truth of what God says about you.

So do not let fear paralyze you. You were not called to live an ordinary life. When you really believe who He says you are, you begin to walk differently, you live differently, and for me that is FREEDOM from living a life that seeks out the approval of man. So just like you, I struggle with wanting to be liked, BUT I know my worth is not based off of people's opinions. So girl, take the risk and BE YOU, ask yourself what does God say about me?

xoxo,

Dezzy & Yazzy

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